What is a family? Why everyone should have a family? What do we need from family? What are we without family? Everyone knows what a family is. Through this blog, we delve into various aspects of the family.
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The family is a special place of peace and security for the individual. The family is a social organization. That organization consists of different relationships such as husband-wife, son-daughters, parents, etc.
A relationship between the wife and husband is one of love and duty towards each other. A husband is expected to provide security, dignity, and respect for his wife. The wife should also respect her husband. As nature has made men and women differently, it has provided some strength and weakness to both. They should complement each other. Making critical and complicated decisions are relatively easy task for women as compared to men. Whereas men are mostly methodological, and have a logical approach to each task. The men and women are similar to the sun and moon, which play a crucial role in the nurturing of the earth. Whereas the sun is very hot and provides the necessary vital energy for life. The moon provides cool, soothing surroundings for life to grow. But both are needed to sustain life on Earth. Like this, a balance is required between the husband and wife to nurture their relationship and child.
The strength of the family is love. In the family, which is a small organization of relationships, everyone is equally important. In the family, a father or a mother is the most successful mentor for their kids. Because they share the nectar of their experiences with their kids. And also, there is no better teacher than the kids. Because they are our mirrors, they lead to introspection of us. Because the way our kids behave and develop, it shows how good we are. How successfully we can transmit our good and bad habits to our kids. The kid is our future, so we can think and act accordingly. Whatever we save today, it will not last beyond a certain time, and also, with the growing age and physical weakness, the money beyond a limit will not be sufficient to support it. At that time, we need mental happiness, which will be our strength booster.
Also, there is no better partner than a brother and no better well-wisher than a sister. With the brother and sister, we can share our all problems and happiness. We can share our problem with brothers and sisters as well, but a sister provides much more mature solution to tackle the problem as compared to a brother.
There is no better friend than husband and wife. They are the ones, who will always be with each other, and share the same life. That’s why there is no bigger wealth than a family.
The family in today’s world – Whether a family is really necessary?
In today’s world, in the desire to achieve something great, the family is being left behind and their happiness too. Family is another name for love. Giving time to family, giving time strengthens both faith and love. There is no law but order in the family, family is not about informing each other but always sharing, there is no pressure but discipline in the family, there is no fear but trust in the family.
Remember, We don’t choose the family, God chooses for us. People say that luck isn’t good if the fortune lines on our palm are not complete. But I believe that if you have the blessings of your parents, and siblings with you then there is no need for these palm lines. There is also a bitter truth that the pin that keeps the paper together, pricks the papers more. In the same way, the person who keep the family together pricks the members of the family also.
How we treat the family now?
In the definition of love, the family name comes first. What people call the world is my family to me, my family is the whole world to me. If I talk about parents then they are the ones who fulfill our wishes by killing their desires. Father is who we call a magician. And mother is the one who takes care of us throughout the day and night and only after we are born, she is called a mother.
If we talk about today’s time, then what is the condition of the parents in the world who brought us into the world and showered love on us in our life. Today we’re fascinated by them for love, it is the parents who yearn to get some love from us today. Parents bring the children into the world, give them identity, and when the child grows up, they hurt the parents only.
And really, time has changed a lot, in today’s time who should be called as their own, the parents who took care of the child, do unconditional love to the child by raising them. But when the parents need the child, that child shows them the way out. You all must have seen that in today’s time many old age homes have opened. It was never before. Nowadays children throw their parents out feeling them as a burden. When parents need the love of their children the most, then children leave them alone.
You tell me, is that the meaning of love? When a daughter leave her home after getting married, the father’s soul trembles. A father who never gave up in any difficult time of life, shown every time the courage before his child. He is the father who cries like a child at the marriage of his daughter. A father looks weakest in his daughter’s marriage. But nowadays, children don’t hurt their parents by sending them out of their homes. People say that old relationships never end or diminish with the advent of new relationships. But nowadays the opposite is happening.
When some friends come in life, some new relationship comes then children are unable to give time or love to their parents. Everyone knows that one day we all will have a world. But in that world it is not necessary that you will forget your old relationship. Just imagine how you would feel if your kids grow up and left you in an old age home, now you must have got your answer. Today as you are talking about sending your parents out of the house, it may be the same tomorrow.
Every relationship has a speciality like there is no better friend than sister. No matter how much you fight with your sister, no matter how much you quarrel with your sister, don’t talk to her but love never diminishes. Similarly another relationship is of marriage. After marriage more relationship are formed in life, we should handle it in the best way. It’s better to spend time to talk to each other than to waste time fighting with each other. Friends let me tell you a very real thing, the relationship God has made for us, that relationship is really very precious and special.
We all should understand and appreciate the importance of relationships. One thing to remember is not everyone’s luck is the family’s happiness. If you look in the world, you will find many children, many people who have lost their family since childhood, who don’t even see their parents, siblings since childhood. If you ask any orphan children, what a family is, then you will understand the importance of the family. Because all those children, all those people who have lost their family, or spend their whole life only and only in the memories of their family.
The children who don’t have parents understand the meaning of parents and family better than anyone. Their whole life is spent in the hope that someone will adopt them as their children. The greatest happiness in the world is to have a family. So stay with your family and appreciate them and live happily with them. Because family is love and love is family. The greatest happiness in the parent’s life is when their children are born and cry hard. After that they will try every thing to make sure that their child never cries.
Do three things if you want happiness in family
If you want to bring happiness in the family then definitely remember three things and do it in your life. Because, the family in which there is happiness, in that family there is love, in those family there will be , peace and happiness. If you do these three things in your life, then you and your family will spend every moment of your life with happiness, peace, and comfort.
1. No matter what the circumstances in life always respect your parents– :
No matter what the situation is, your business is getting more, you are getting less profits in your business, you have made progress than them or you are less kind than them. You don’t get along well with them, you fight with them, you have a difference of opinion of them. You don’t match the opinion of your parents, no matter what but never insult them under any circumstances. Whatever it is, always respect those who gave birth to you.
It doesn’t mean that you should always listen to them, you should keep your opinion while talking, observe, and talk about the right or wrong thing while you are talking. Under any circumstances, don’t insult them, don’t ever make them feel small. Never ignore them, but always say that whatever progress I have made today, whatever good work I am doing today, whatever I have been able to make my identity today, I am only because of you.
Always include your family and your parents in your progress and your happiness. Because in the whole world there is only your family who is very happy with your happiness and progress.
2. Don’t compromise when it comes to parenting– :
Never compromise on child-rearing. To the best of your ability, send your child to a best school. Give them good coaching according to your ability, give them the best training for their hobby, make them independent. Do whatever you are able to do for them. Don’t compromise on them, don’t skimp on them. Even if you take a little more stress, even if you live in a rented house, even if you do everything you like in your life a little skimpy. But never skimp on the upbringing of children.
Even if the distance between the house and the school is a little more and it is within your capacity then you can send your child there. If you have the strength, don’t skimp on it. Send them to the best school and give them the best education. Never set the budget in such a way that with a small amount of money, the education of the children will be done. Always try to provide the best.
Do the best according to your ability for your children because this is a one-time development in life. If you want you can build many houses later, you can also take many vehicles later, if you want you can visit abroad many times later, but raising the children happens only once. You will be able to raise children only once, you can’t do it again. That’s why never compromise on the upbringing of your children.
See through the vision of nurturing them not by competition. Don’t blindly compete, but provide the facilities, which you can afford and suit your child’s ability.
3. If you are able and your family members are not able then help them as far as you can
If you are able and your family members are not able then help them as far as you can and always keep one thing in mind while helping don’t expect any return after helping. Always remember one thing that God only gives this ability to those who want to help or help others. I mean that there is such a person around you who needs help very much, whether you are someone in the family who needs your help or whether you have a childhood friend who needs your help.
If there is anyone who needs your help, then you must help them according to your ability. You want to build a temple, you want to build a mosque whatever you want to build for social things you build, no one is stopping you. But before all that, help the person who desperately needs your help. If there is an employee in your office who needs your help then help him as if he is your family member.
A person who loves to help others, god loves him, because God needs to help people and he found a way to do it. If you are capable, if you are rich, if you have such a strong network and if you have power, then definitely help others. And again I am repeating the same thing that after helping you don’t expect returns.
Because where there is expectation of return, there is less relationship and more business. Transaction happen in business and there is no business in the relationship. So if you help your dear ones, don’t expect them back. Always thank God for enabling you to help others, that’s why always thank God.
